Official Officiant

I like to take the idea of who will marry us seriously.

I do not want to just have some friend or a bum off the street become a certified officiant and perform the ceremony.



I know that this sort of thing, especially the friend option, has become popular as of late. I do not support it.



I have considered the idea of having a Justice of the Peace do it. The idea seems acceptable enough. They are, after all, agents of the state. It is through the state that we are married. It is through the state, or society, that we profess our union. It is through the state, or society, that we receive special benefits and designations that are reserved only for the married.

But I also like to think that there is more than that.


I am open to have a minister or some other member of the church marry us. However, I run into several logistical problems with this. Lauren's family is pretty staunchly Catholic. I do get the impression that the inclusion of other faiths, even Christian ones, would not be warmly accepted. I am not Catholic. I say this despite the fact that I was baptized in the Church as a small baby. It was my last real experience with the Catholic Church.

I can not say that I agree with the Catholic Church on everything. I can say that I disagree with them on much on the surface. Although I do openly admit my ignorance on much of the subject matter.


I do not know how comfortable I am being married in the Catholic Church. I am open to the idea of a Catholic Priest performing the ceremony outside of the Church. But I do not know if we would find a Priest willing.

It is hard because I do not live within 3000 miles of the place where we will be married. And our only familial ties with a church are through the Catholic Church.



It is a decision. That we will have to make.